Urge Surfing

Urge surfing involves riding a wave of strong emotions or distress by stepping back from your experience and using mindfulness skills. It involves noticing the urge to engage in eating disorder behaviours without giving in. You simply observe and describe these urges in a non-judgmental way without reacting to them.

Urge surfing can help you to stop engaging in eating disorder behaviours and help you manage overwhelming emotions.

Three phases of every urge

The Build-Up:

At first, there is a build-up period that begins with a trigger or a prompting event. This is when the idea of engaging in a disordered behaviour comes up.

The Peak:\
The urge becomes more and more intense until it reaches the peak. This is the highest and hardest point of the urge. The time it takes to reach the peak differs between people. It is difficult to withstand the peak without giving in, because you have to notice the feelings and resist reacting to them. This is a good time to engage in an alternative activity.

The Run-Off:\
Lastly, there is a run-off period. During this phase the urge gradually returns to a baseline level. If you are able to resist without giving in, the urges will not be reinforced. Of course they come back again, but each time you overcome a bout of cravings without feeding the urges, they become less intense and less frequent.

With time and practice your urge surfing techniques will improve. The urge will take less time to peak and less time to return to a baseline, where you feel safe and comfortable.

If you have a slip up and give in to the impulse you will notice increased urges for a while, but you can still apply urge surfing all over again. Try to be patient.

Remember: The urge may be very strong in the moment, but if you abstain from giving in, the urge goes away.

Exercise: Record your experience

Next time the urge to engage in a disordered behaviour comes up and you are facing a surge of discomfort, try to “ride the wave” and observe what is happening.

Every minute after the urge begins, write down whether there is any change in the level of intensity you are experiencing.

• Does the urge vary?

• Did you notice the peak?

• Did you notice the urge reducing in strength as time passed?

Compare different urge episodes, and check if there is any difference in the amount of time it took to decrease to a manageable level.

Remember: Urges do go away, but they may become very strong for a short while after you decide to resist it.

Knowing that urges will fade will help you to continue to surf the wave of distress and discomfort that you feel. The most important part of developing this skill is repeated practice.

Exercise: Urge surfcards

Create “urge surfcards” with urge-surfing information and words of encouragement. Refer to them when you notice an urge or overwhelming emotion start to emerge.

You can cut-out the cards and put them around the house or in places where you
usually experience urges to engage in disordered behaviours (e.g. the kitchen, with your exercise gear). You can also use them as a bookmark, or carry them in your wallet.